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Ermmm....first post in 2008. I have this topic I want to write about but haven't got the time to really write it down and pour my own thoughts into it. I guess now is the perfect time to do so. Ok, let's start with the 2008 countdown.
The plan was simple. Karaoke, go to Mabes n pick up Bowo, go to Jef and play WE. Turned out not that simple. From rain that poured down right when I reached Pool. I had to act quickly and wear a raincoat. Arrived at Happy Puppy just in time at 8.55 PM. Waited for a while then David came. He was soaked wet...well..at least the backside of his pants wasn't wet...hahahaha...Short story, it all went well. We had some crazy time and some explicit pictures were taken :D. Then after karaoke (and after I took Karen and left Elisha at home), we went to Hwang clan place to pick up Bowo (that was the initial plan). Got stuck at La Piazza because it was right at 12.00 AM, January 1st 2008. The cars weren't moving because the people wanted to see the fireworks. There we were, three of us..in a car..stuck..rain was pouring down a bit...so romantic....lolllzzzzz....At first we were frustrated, but we tried to think positive and enjoy the fireworks. Some of them were beautiful and amazing :D. Back at Happy Puppy we had this joke; if someday the three of us have gf, then we'll be having triple dates instead of threesome. Yeah...triple dates, we still go to karaoke, while our gfs shopping at mall...lolzzzz...that was hilarous....Anyway...it turned out that Bowo couldn't come with us, so after having late dinner, we went back to Jef's house. Stopped by at McD gading to buy some burgers, Big Mac to be precise. Coincidentally met Angel there. She's waiting for her order too. I greeted her Happy New Year from inside the car while David and Agus was drooling....hahahha....We ended up playing WE till 7 AM and went to sleep after that. I woke up at 8 sth AM, went back home, took a bath and continued my sleep....What a new year celebration...:D:D:D
January 3rd, 2008.
First working day in 2008. I can still remember, three years ago it was also my first day of work. I was anxious and excited at that time. Took a half day leave cause I had to attend technical meeting for Dave's wedding. Arrived at the gold club a lil bit late and the meeting was already started. Dave was planning to sing a song, When You Say Nothing At All. Reminded me of my own plan to sing at my wedding reception someday. I have prepared the song which I'll be singing to my future wife..the perfect song to be sung...but now...Dave has stolen my idea...lolzz...nah I was just kidding...we both just think alike :D:D:D I just realized that it was quite hectic to arrange a wedding reception. I made up my mind, I wanna get married only once....it will be unbearable to go through all the preparation process again...hahahaha....Got Gossip Girl episode 11.. it was good, but still couldn't top episode 10 :D.
January 4th, 2008.
Still a lil bit drowsy when I arrived at office. Bongki gave me a new TV serial, Chuck which after I watched the first episode, begin to like. There's an enhancement of office facilities. We have Cold Milo/Blackcurrant machine now...Nice addition to the existing Nestle Coffee machine. Nothing much that day, just playing CS after lunch time till afternoon...lolzzz....
Okay now to the main course. Enough with the entrée. This goes out to my two girl friends (remember, the girl and friends are separate words so no, they're not my girlfriends :D) and for all the girls out there in general. Here's the thing: I have two friends (On second thought, I better omit the girl word to avoid misinterpretation) who's in similar condition. I'll take one as an example. She's getting tired (or already been tired for quite some time) of their relationship. She both told me that she wanted to break up, but she still have this doubt. She does not enjoy her relationship anymore..She doesn't wanna stay, but yet it's hard for her to walk away. One of the reason is because her bf is too kind and he really spoils her. But his spoiling becomes overwhelming for her. She told me she had talked about this, but it's still the same. Well, I don't know exactly what or how she said it but after talking about it, she stills feel the same...tired of the relationship while her bf doesn't aware at all about their situation. He still thinks everything is fine, that they're doing ok..great probably. I asked her whether she has talked to her bf about her (true) feelings...how she feels about the relationship. She said she hasn't and maybe their relationship won't last long. I told her it is essential to talk about this and I urged her to do so, because I think if this keep going on, they will break up eventually...she cannot hold on being in a relationship when she doesn't feel comfortable in it. She said to give it some time and she'd see how it goes. She doesn't have the heart to break up...yet because of his kindness...
I think it's useless if she doesn't say honestly what's on her mind. How can she expect things will change? He will change? That their relationship will last if she does not communicate about this matter. She probably can hold on for a few months, then after she can't stand it anymore, she'll break up. Does she think that by giving some time (and do nothing), a miracle will happen and her bf can change? Hellooo.......we guys (as much as we want to) cannot read minds. How can we know that there's something wrong in the relationship (from the gf point of view) if the gf doesn't talk about it? Yes we are dumb, we cannot translate the signals you girls give 100% accurate and we do not posses the famous 'woman intuition' to sniff if there's something going on out of the ordinary....so do please tell us...communicate with us....work it out together...if it cannot be resolved...then break up is the wise thing to do. It's better to talk (and maybe break up) now than keeping this to yourself. Maybe if it's just a glimpse or something unimportant, you better keep it. But when it comes to the continuity of the relationship and involves the other party, it's better to speak up. Keeping this thing will only add a burden. That's why I believe that an open and honest communication is the foundation of every relationship, not only in bf gf relationship. So please take this humble advice...talk...talk...talk...speak up girls... *For A n B, if you read this...you know it's you I was referring in this post. Good luck ;)
Well....I guess that's all my 'preach' for now. It took me 3 days to write this blog, thanks to CS...hahahaa.....
Girls...sometimes we need you to make the first stand...As for dessert...Darren Hayes and Daniel Jones are ready with their song.... enjoy
Savage Garden - Hold Me
Hey Hey
If we can't find a way out of these problems
Then maybe we don't need this
Standing face to face
Enemies at war we build defenses
And secret hiding places
I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Coz tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man
Hey Hey
More than angry words I hate this silence
It's getting so loud
Well I wanna scream
But bitterness has silenced these emotions
It's getting hard to breathe
So tell me isn't happiness
Worth more than a golden diamond ring?
I'm willing to do anything
To calm the storm in my heart
I've never been the praying kind
But lately I've been down upon my knees
Not looking for a miracle
Just a reason to believe
I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Because tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man
Do you remember not long ago?
When we used to live for the nighttime
Cherish each moment
Now we don't live we exist
We just run through our lives
So alone
That's why you've got to hold me
Hey Hey
If we can't find a way out of these problems
Then maybe we don't need this
Standing face to face
Enemies at war we build defenses
And secret hiding places
I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Because tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man
Ermmm....first post in 2008. I have this topic I want to write about but haven't got the time to really write it down and pour my own thoughts into it. I guess now is the perfect time to do so. Ok, let's start with the 2008 countdown.
The plan was simple. Karaoke, go to Mabes n pick up Bowo, go to Jef and play WE. Turned out not that simple. From rain that poured down right when I reached Pool. I had to act quickly and wear a raincoat. Arrived at Happy Puppy just in time at 8.55 PM. Waited for a while then David came. He was soaked wet...well..at least the backside of his pants wasn't wet...hahahaha...Short story, it all went well. We had some crazy time and some explicit pictures were taken :D. Then after karaoke (and after I took Karen and left Elisha at home), we went to Hwang clan place to pick up Bowo (that was the initial plan). Got stuck at La Piazza because it was right at 12.00 AM, January 1st 2008. The cars weren't moving because the people wanted to see the fireworks. There we were, three of us..in a car..stuck..rain was pouring down a bit...so romantic....lolllzzzzz....At first we were frustrated, but we tried to think positive and enjoy the fireworks. Some of them were beautiful and amazing :D. Back at Happy Puppy we had this joke; if someday the three of us have gf, then we'll be having triple dates instead of threesome. Yeah...triple dates, we still go to karaoke, while our gfs shopping at mall...lolzzzz...that was hilarous....Anyway...it turned out that Bowo couldn't come with us, so after having late dinner, we went back to Jef's house. Stopped by at McD gading to buy some burgers, Big Mac to be precise. Coincidentally met Angel there. She's waiting for her order too. I greeted her Happy New Year from inside the car while David and Agus was drooling....hahahha....We ended up playing WE till 7 AM and went to sleep after that. I woke up at 8 sth AM, went back home, took a bath and continued my sleep....What a new year celebration...:D:D:D
January 3rd, 2008.
First working day in 2008. I can still remember, three years ago it was also my first day of work. I was anxious and excited at that time. Took a half day leave cause I had to attend technical meeting for Dave's wedding. Arrived at the gold club a lil bit late and the meeting was already started. Dave was planning to sing a song, When You Say Nothing At All. Reminded me of my own plan to sing at my wedding reception someday. I have prepared the song which I'll be singing to my future wife..the perfect song to be sung...but now...Dave has stolen my idea...lolzz...nah I was just kidding...we both just think alike :D:D:D I just realized that it was quite hectic to arrange a wedding reception. I made up my mind, I wanna get married only once....it will be unbearable to go through all the preparation process again...hahahaha....Got Gossip Girl episode 11.. it was good, but still couldn't top episode 10 :D.
January 4th, 2008.
Still a lil bit drowsy when I arrived at office. Bongki gave me a new TV serial, Chuck which after I watched the first episode, begin to like. There's an enhancement of office facilities. We have Cold Milo/Blackcurrant machine now...Nice addition to the existing Nestle Coffee machine. Nothing much that day, just playing CS after lunch time till afternoon...lolzzz....
Okay now to the main course. Enough with the entrée. This goes out to my two girl friends (remember, the girl and friends are separate words so no, they're not my girlfriends :D) and for all the girls out there in general. Here's the thing: I have two friends (On second thought, I better omit the girl word to avoid misinterpretation) who's in similar condition. I'll take one as an example. She's getting tired (or already been tired for quite some time) of their relationship. She both told me that she wanted to break up, but she still have this doubt. She does not enjoy her relationship anymore..She doesn't wanna stay, but yet it's hard for her to walk away. One of the reason is because her bf is too kind and he really spoils her. But his spoiling becomes overwhelming for her. She told me she had talked about this, but it's still the same. Well, I don't know exactly what or how she said it but after talking about it, she stills feel the same...tired of the relationship while her bf doesn't aware at all about their situation. He still thinks everything is fine, that they're doing ok..great probably. I asked her whether she has talked to her bf about her (true) feelings...how she feels about the relationship. She said she hasn't and maybe their relationship won't last long. I told her it is essential to talk about this and I urged her to do so, because I think if this keep going on, they will break up eventually...she cannot hold on being in a relationship when she doesn't feel comfortable in it. She said to give it some time and she'd see how it goes. She doesn't have the heart to break up...yet because of his kindness...
I think it's useless if she doesn't say honestly what's on her mind. How can she expect things will change? He will change? That their relationship will last if she does not communicate about this matter. She probably can hold on for a few months, then after she can't stand it anymore, she'll break up. Does she think that by giving some time (and do nothing), a miracle will happen and her bf can change? Hellooo.......we guys (as much as we want to) cannot read minds. How can we know that there's something wrong in the relationship (from the gf point of view) if the gf doesn't talk about it? Yes we are dumb, we cannot translate the signals you girls give 100% accurate and we do not posses the famous 'woman intuition' to sniff if there's something going on out of the ordinary....so do please tell us...communicate with us....work it out together...if it cannot be resolved...then break up is the wise thing to do. It's better to talk (and maybe break up) now than keeping this to yourself. Maybe if it's just a glimpse or something unimportant, you better keep it. But when it comes to the continuity of the relationship and involves the other party, it's better to speak up. Keeping this thing will only add a burden. That's why I believe that an open and honest communication is the foundation of every relationship, not only in bf gf relationship. So please take this humble advice...talk...talk...talk...speak up girls... *For A n B, if you read this...you know it's you I was referring in this post. Good luck ;)
Well....I guess that's all my 'preach' for now. It took me 3 days to write this blog, thanks to CS...hahahaa.....
Girls...sometimes we need you to make the first stand...As for dessert...Darren Hayes and Daniel Jones are ready with their song.... enjoy
Savage Garden - Hold Me
Hey Hey
If we can't find a way out of these problems
Then maybe we don't need this
Standing face to face
Enemies at war we build defenses
And secret hiding places
I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Coz tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man
Hey Hey
More than angry words I hate this silence
It's getting so loud
Well I wanna scream
But bitterness has silenced these emotions
It's getting hard to breathe
So tell me isn't happiness
Worth more than a golden diamond ring?
I'm willing to do anything
To calm the storm in my heart
I've never been the praying kind
But lately I've been down upon my knees
Not looking for a miracle
Just a reason to believe
I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Because tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man
Do you remember not long ago?
When we used to live for the nighttime
Cherish each moment
Now we don't live we exist
We just run through our lives
So alone
That's why you've got to hold me
Hey Hey
If we can't find a way out of these problems
Then maybe we don't need this
Standing face to face
Enemies at war we build defenses
And secret hiding places
I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Because tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man
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