Choosing is (not) easy

post #212

Choosing is not as easy as it may seem. Let's see this sample case. I've been looking for the perfect candidate to replace my 'obsolete' N6600 which has been loyal to me for almost four years. Lots of new models have been launched yet it took quite some times for me to decide which one that will have the honor to continue my N6600 service. N6290 once became a candidate. S60, fast CPU, and new form factor (well for me at least :D) had attracted me. But it never came out in Indo, so I had to look for another candidate. N6300 stepped forward as the next candidate. But I still waited for a better candidate, then SE P1 came. Ermm....Switch to SE, what a temptation. P1 offered incredible features. But I preferred Nokia rather than SE. N6120 Classic came along the way to sway me from SE P1. It's just like N6290 with different form factor. But it offered HSDPA and secondary camera. Finally, a perfect candidate that I'd been looking for. But.........not so long after that E51 was announced. It was beautiful. It's equipped with Wifi capability though with sacrificing the secondary camera for video conference. Ermmm....tough decision. And to add the dilemma, N82 was launched in Dec 2007. I want slim, candybar, equipped with HSDPA, Wifi, and decent camera cellphone (in considerable price range of course). E51 fulfilled almost all of them. N82 got stuck on the price...lolzzz....6120 Classic was cheaper, about 1M...Ermmmm after a thorough consideration I decided to choose E51. The crowning moment would be....soon.

Ok, that was about choosing cellphone. It was much easier and straightforward because the specs were stated clearly and they're fixed. All the emotions involved may only based on previous experience with particular brand or form factor, thus building brand or form factor preferences. I don't need to tell which brand I prefer, right?

Not so easy when it comes to choosing people. Choosing friends, girlfriend/boyfriend is much more complicated. Let say You'd like the candidate to have quality A,B,C,D, and E. Girl #1 has A,B, n C. Girl #2 has B,D, n E. Girl #3 has A,C, n E. Girl #4 has A,B,C n D. If they were cellphones, girl #4 would be the best candidate. Or if each of the quality has equal priority (Thanks to PSA Reporting modules that influenced me to use the term equal priority), then girl #4 would score 80,thus be the best.

But what if the priority is different among quality A,B,C,D, and E. Ermmm...starting to get confusing, huh? This is only when dealing with the specific qualities. What if we add other parameters here, like...emotions, preferences, vibe/sparks/chemistry. What if girl #4 with all the qualities she possessed, didn't create this vibe/sparks/chemistry, while girl #3 clicked right away? Complicated, isn't it? Where does this chemistry come? Probably it's from our subconscious, like why there's a thing or a person that fascinate us...

Speaking about chemistry, as one of my fave subject back in high school, there were still one or two things I remember, esp about chemical reaction. There are some elements that would create chemical reaction right away when they're put together (Similar with a guy and a girl who clicks right away after they meet). There are some that need more time before a chemical reaction happens (Reminds me of some couple that takes a while to build that spark).

Example:
Two elements of Hidrogen and one element of Oxygen would create Water.

2 H₂ + O₂ → 2 H₂O

Beside the basic nature of the elements, there are other factors that affect the chemical reaction. They are:
- Temperature
- Concentration
- Catalyst
- Surface Area

I guess catalyst can be imagined as a friend who helps in speeding up the process between prospective couple to become a real couple...or...maybe a matchmaker... :D:D:D. The surface area involves how many collisions happen, which eventually accelerate the chemical reaction. Maybe this can be imagined as the amount of time they (a guy and a girl) spend together before the spark is created. I'm not gonna go through the other factors...:D

From the chemical reaction sample above, both H₂ (gas) and O₂ (gas) have become a new substance, H₂O (liquid). Their form and characteristics changed. Chemical reaction happens when the elements are capable to do so. If not, nothing will happen.

Okay, enough with the chemistry lesson. I'm not even 100% sure that I still remember it correctly...lolzz...Please correct me if there's anything wrong. Back to the case sample above. Maybe with girl #4, it'd take a while before the chemistry kick in. Maybe there won't be any chemistry at all. Maybe girl #4 is very compatible (fulfilling quality A,B,C n D) but lacks in chemistry, while girl #3 is quite compatible, but the chemistry is excellent. Which one will you choose? Which one is more important to you? Chemistry or compatibility? I can only say, choose wisely.

As for me, both are important, just have different priorities. Esp looking at this result :D :D

Your Ideal Relationship is Serious Dating

You're not ready to go walking down the aisle. But you may be ready in a couple of years. You prefer to date one on one, with a commitment. And while chemistry is important, so is compatibility.

What's
Your Ideal Relationship?

I can't even define the fixed weighing factor. It never easy when it involves feelings. After all we, humans, are creature with feelings and emotions.

Wonderful Week

post #211

What a week. I'm being paid for practically nothing (*shushhh..don't tell my boss...lolzzz). Ermmm...Browsing, Chatting, Blogging, Playing multiplayer games aren't included in working activities, right? Lolzzz...

Well, since Bongki (one of my colleagues) introduced me to CSS in the beginning of January, we've been playing it ever since in our 'self study' time. At first I wasn't too keen on playing coz it wasn't my kind of game, but after giving it a try..It turned to be quite okay and addictive. I think I began to understand why when I was back in univ lots of students played it almost non-stop. When you play it with with your friends, it becomes more exciting (and addictive). And these last two days, we've moved on to a new game to play together. It's none other than the legendary Diablo II : Lord of Destruction. Boy..what a classic game. I remembered playing it few years ago with Eddy. Well, we both played at our homes and compared each other's achievement. But now I play multiplayer with my colleagues and it's more exciting than I thought it'd be.

That's what you get when you work in an IT consulting company. When you're assigned in a project, your life cycle would be sleep-work-sleep. And when you roll off from a project and waiting for the next project assignment...ermmm just like me lahh... *Mel, you have to take responsibility for your contagious singlish... lolzzzz. It's nice to have some relax time.

So last week activities had been the things I've mentioned above. To close this wonderful week, I played my first futsal game in 2008. But not before a quick stop to Gadink mall to buy a new shirt. 126 had 50% off so I took a look and bought a shirt there. It's quite a bargain..:D. I got a muscle (or two?) pulled thanks for pushing myself too hard and that bump with. My right calf still aching and both my knees still in recovery since they both successfully kissed the hard pitch (not the usual turf pitch) quite hard. At least I managed to scored four goals and six assists in two games before I had to quite to the mentioned calf injury. Exhausted, Injured, but fully satisfied..Yeahhhhh....

I think last week I also finished Las Vegas season 1. Bought it because I was curious about Josh Duhamel, the guy who played in Transformers. It turned out to be a good serial. Thanks to Lia, now I have lotzz of home works to finish. Women's Murder Club, Brothers and Sisters, and Bones are waiting to be watched. Bongki also still supplying fresh episodes of Chuck. Mellfie with Prison Break and Gossip Girl (Gossip Girl will be aired again on Feb...Yippieee). Albert will be supplying Smallville. I still have The Unit season 2 left unfinished. So many serials so little time to watch...Seven days a week and 24 hours a day isn't enough....lolzzzz

Yesterday I hibernated and watched Pirates of the Caribbean 3. Yeah I know it's quite old, but hey I just bought the DVD two weeks ago. I better get home now, the road should be clear. Maybe I can watch one episode of The Unit...:D


Craig David - Seven Days

On my way to see my friends
Who lived a couple blocks away from me
As I walked through the subway
Must have been about quater past three
In front of me
Stood a beautiful honey with a beautiful body
She asked me for the time
I said it'd cost her name
A six digit number and a date with
tommorow at nine

Did she decline? No
Didn't she mind? I don't think so
Was it for real? Damn sure?
What was the deal? A pretty girl aged 24
So was she keen? She couldn't wait
Cinnamon queen? Let me update
What did she say? She said she'd love to rendezvous
She asked me what we were gonna do
Said we'd start with a bottle of Moet for two


Reff:
Monday
Took her for a drink on Tuesday
We were making love by Wednesday
And on Thursday and Friday and Saturday
We chilled on Sunday
I met this girl on Monday
Took her for a drink on Tuesday
We were making love by Wednesday
And On Thursday and Friday and Saturday
We chilled on Sunday

Nine was the time
Cos I'll be getting mine
And she was looking fine
Smooth talker she told me
She'd love to unfold me all night long
Ooh I loved the way she kicked it
From the front to back she flipped
(Back she flipped it, the way she kicked
it)
And I oh I yeah
Hope that she'd care
Cos I'm a man who'll always be there

I'm not a man to play around baby
Cos a one night stand isn't really fair
From the first impression girl hmm you
don't seem to be like that
Cos there's no need to chat for there'll
be plenty of time for that
From the subway to my home
Endless ringing of my phone
When you're feeling all alone
All you gotta do
Is just call me call me

Reff

(Break it down, break it down)
Since I met this special lady (ooh, girl)
I can't get her off my mind
She's one of a kind
And I ain't about to deny it
It's a special kind of thing
With you, oh...

Reff

Fascination

post #210

I'm not quite sure, but I think I can be fascinated quite easily. Wait, did I use the right word? Is it fascinated, or attracted? Ermmm...Let's ask Mr. Dictionary. Hmmm....Fascination is an intense attractive quality, while attraction is the quality of attracting. I guess attracted is more appropriate, but I'm gonna use fascinated anyway.

Among many things that fascinate me, notebooks, cell phones, computers...well in short, gadgets are in the first place. Then movies, (and like many other male species I suppose) girls, sports come right up.

Sometimes I wonder why. What drives this fascination? Is it encoded in our DNA? Is it influenced by our environments, may it be physical, geographical, social? Or is it a combination of both? Let me put it this way. Why is the majority of males are fascinated by sports? Because the testosterone that's flowing in their body? Because it is what commonly expected from males? Well we can talk about it for hours but I'm not an expert on this and just wanna shout my thought out loud.

For me, fascination (along with my sometimes annoying curiosity) might give a wrong impression to others. Example. Do you know the difference between WD Passport and Seagate Free Agent Go (both have 160GB capacity and 2.5" form factor) beside their price? For starter, WD Passport provide free Google desktop software. The second one, the cache size of WD Passport is 'only' 2MB, while Free Agent Go has 8MB. I think that's why Free Agent Go's price is slightly more expensive than WD Passport.

Well, my fascination and curiosity drives me to find out what differentiate WD Passport and Seagate Free Agent Go. You can call me a geek for this, I don't care. But when it comes to girls...things get a lil bit complicated. My fascination and curiosity can be interpreted differently, hence the misunderstanding.

Reminds me of Nelly, the girl who's singing with her bf at Jetski Cafe. She fascinated me. I was curious, how it'd feel to have a gf who's into singing? We could form a duet sometimes...:D:D. Then Shelley, she could play badminton..again I thought...It'd be nice to have a gf like her so we can play together. There's a girl that I'd love to talk to for hours. We seemed to have endless topic to talk about and it also fascinated me. There's a girl...ermm...some girls whose blogs are very good and attract me to read them. Then there's this colleague of mine. I dunno why, but I just like looking at her. I admit, she's attractive, esp when she wore skirt. So what...? It doesn't mean I'm gonna go after her or Nelly or Shelley just because of this fascination.

I think Shanty's song can be used to describe...

"..Kuakui, tubuhku melunglai
Sempatku memuji dalam hatiku
Jangan fikir aku kan mencinta
Ku hanya kagumi, hanya memuji..."

It's too far away to talk about love when it comes to (only) a fascination. Maybe admiration is the correct term to define the feelings. We may admire other people (esp from the opposite sex), but not necessary gonna pursue this admiration to know if there's something more to it. Maybe because it's just simply an admiration, maybe because we know where it leads and there's nothing more to it.

Is it more than just an infatuation....Erm...my thoughts are getting incoherent atm....


Maroon 5 - Infatuation

Baby, I don’t want to spend my life on trial
For something that I did not do.
And maybe if you stopped and looked around some time
I wouldn’t pass right by you.

Maybe it’s because you are so insecure,
And maybe you plain don’t care.
Maybe it’s the chase that really gets me off,
It falls away and it’s just not there.

Burn another bridge. Break another heart.
Try again, it will only fall apart.

Reff:
Infatuation,
Not seeing the rest of you is getting the best of me.
It’s such a shame that you shot me down,
It would have been nice to be around.
I’m touching your skin.
If it’s only a fantasy, then why is it killing me?
And I guess this must be infatuation. (I want it…)

Try to put my finger on what burns me up,
It always seems to escape me.
And when you have decided that you’ve had enough,
Just tell me where I need to be.

Now I'm facing something that I never had
To ever deal with before.
She left me with the feeling that she’d had enough,

And I’m the one wanting more.

Burn another bridge. Break another heart.
Try again, it will only fall apart.

Reff

I’m so attracted to you.
The feeling’s mutual too.
I get scared the moment you leave.
Get so hot I forget to breathe, yeh.

Reff

Impression

post #209

Heard this song again when I was driving my car. A song that I'd forgotten for so long. Hearing it gave me the inspiration to write a blog.

Here are the first two definition Impression:
1. a strong effect produced on the intellect, feelings, conscience, etc.
2. the first and immediate effect of an experience or perception upon the mind; sensation.

The keywords are first, feelings, experience and perception. First impression is a very common term and I believe it is quite important in our relationship. Our first impression of others and vice versa can affect the rest of our relationship with them. First impression can be determined by physical appearance (if we meet other people in person), the choice of words we use when we communicate (ie via email, chat, or forum). This first impression might build incorrect image of a person esp when after the first impression there's not much interaction happens. We're still perceive that person based on our (interaction) experience, which is not much, thus we 'see' that person through 'the first impression that person gave' spectacles. Trouble is, our first impression of a person is not always correct. Not to mention that our mood or condition also affects the impression we get. Example: A (in a very good mood) met B when B was having a bad day. A cheered B up a little (thanks to the very good mood). On the other day, C (in bad mood) met B when B was still having a bad day. A and C probably would say that B is a sad and miserable person (not to mention if, hypothetically B hadn't taken a shower for days). B might say that A was a kind person for cheering B up a lil, while C was an indifferent person. But maybe later on B would meet C with superbly good mood. Then B could experience another impression of C, that C was actually kind...bla..bla...bla...

My points are first impression is quite important and we better not rush into judging a person only from a few interaction. And while maybe the first impression given was not really good, remember tabula rasa and communicate to get to know the person better. We might see that person in his/her real skin. Even peoples who know each other might have the wrong impression because impression is based on feelings, assumptions and it can be formed. That's why, an honest communication is important to avoid wrong impression.

Hmmm....well I guess I've learned enough from my own experiences... *I was sure I had something else I wanna write...but now it's gone...I'll add it up if it comes back

Ok, without any further ado, here's the song I mean in the beginning of this post...Natalie Imbruglia with Wrong Impression

Natalie Imbruglia - Wrong Impression

Calling out, calling out
Haven't you wondered
Why I'm always alone
When you're in my dreams
Calling out, calling out
Haven't you wondered
Why you're finding it hard
Just looking at me

I want you
But I want you to understand
I need you
I love you

Didn't want to leave you
With the wrong impression
Didn't want to leave you
With my last confession
(Yeah) Of love
Wasn't trying to pull you
In the wrong direction
All I wanna do is try to
Make a connection
(Yeah) Of love


Falling out, falling out
Have you ever wondered
If this was ever more
Than a crazy idea
Falling out, falling out
Have you ever wondered
What we could've been
If you'd only let me in

I want you, but I want you to understand
I miss you I love you

Didn't want to leave you
With the wrong impression
Didn't want to leave you
With my last confession
(Yeah) Of love
Wasn't trying to pull you
In the wrong direction
All I wanna do is try to
Make a connection
(Yeah) Of love
Have you ever wondered
(Yeah, yeah...ooh)

I need you I love you

Didn't want to leave you
With the wrong impression
Didn't want to leave you
With my last confession
(Yeah) Of love
Wasn't trying to pull you
In the wrong direction
All I wanna do is try to
Make a connection
(Yeah) Of love

Didn't want to leave you
With the wrong impression
Didn't want to leave you
With my last confession
(Yeah) Of love
Wasn't trying to pull you
In the wrong direction
All I wanna do is try to
Make a connection
(Yeah) Of love

I didn't want to leave you there (I'm calling out)

Wasn't trying to pull you
In the wrong direction - but I'm calling out (Yeah, yeah)
Wasn't trying to pull you
In the wrong direction - but I'm falling out (Yeah...)

Diary of a Best Man

post #208

Never thought that wedding can be very exhausting. Slept over at Dave's hotel so I wouldn't have to go there in early morning. Woke up at 5.30 AM. Dave was still asleep though his mom had tried to wake him up. I woke up instead :D. Took a shower and then ate breakfast. Ko Steve's gf, Fanny had kindly heated up the rice and prepared some food. I ate some roll cakes then after Dave finished his shower we ate together.

At around 6.30 AM, we went to Royal. Dave was getting his hair and make up done, so was I. Cynthia and Dave's mom were already there. Ok, I'm not gonna go into details coz it will be very long and (maybe) boring. Short story, we finished at around 7.45 AM. Dave had his hair colored red.

Then we went to Citraland, Dave's father and brothers were already there. And the....what's the correct term....give away ceremony for the groom? started. Pics and vids were taken. Ko Steve as the eldest son cut a red ribbon (reminded me of Dragon Ball...:D) as a symbol giving permission for Dave to get married before him. Then the best man (me) escorted Dave to pick the bride up at Grand Tropical (I think the best man here plays a role to make sure that the groom doesn't run away when he has cold feet or second thought....lollzzzz).

Arrived at Grand Tropic and we attracted attention (the Gold Mercedes Benz with wedding ornaments plus the hand bouquet help a lot). We went to Cynthia's family suite and guess what, there's also another groom who picked up his bride on the same floor, we met them when they were waiting for the elevator. Talking about wedding season....lolzzz... I 'handed' Dave to Cynthia's family rep. Then he walked backward till his back touched Cynthia's and he opened her veil. They ate rice noddles with boiled eggs afterward, using chopsticks. After that there's Cynthia's family tea pay. Then we (the bride, the groom, the bride's maid and me) went to Citraland Hotel again where Cynthia (supposedly) was welcomed in the groom's house (represent by the same room where Dave's was given away earlier).

Next...off to church. We got there on time. The pastor who led the mass reminded me of Hendra. He really looked like him :D. As usual there's this sentimental moment when the groom and the bride said thanks to their parents for taking care of them all this time. After the wedding blessing, Dave and Cynthia released a pair of white doves, then came the civil registry officer. Short story, it all went well.

The gold club was our next destination. Arrived there ahead of schedule at 2.30 PM. We got comp'ed with VVIP room. We ate our late lunch there. At around 4 PM the tea pay ceremony for Dave's family was started. ...... The wedding reception started at 6.30 PM. The MCs were Reza n the guy who's also appear in Extravaganza. The food was delicious and I had to conduct couple of short interviews to ask the selected guests (which was selected by Dave) about their comments for Dave's wedding. The reception ended at 9 sth PM. But we still had to clean up things. I went back to Grand Tropic to get my backpack then went back home. My job was done, after about almost 18 hours.

For Dave...congrats man. Never thought you'd tie the knot this fast. I'm very happy, for both of you...Thanks for all the CRAZY times we've had...you needn't have to do the that (you know what I mean). It was an honor that you pick me to be your best man and I tried my best to meet your expectation. Hopefully I did.

I guess GIGI wouldn't mind if I change their song a lil bit...just for you Dave...my craziest fella...cheers mate

GIGI - 12 Januari

dua belas januari bertemu
menjalani kisah cinta ini
naluri berkata engkaulah milikku

bahagia selalu dimiliki
bertahun menjalani bersamamu
kunyatakan bahwa engkaulah jiwaku

*
akulah penjagamu
akulah pelindungmu
akulah pendampingmu
di setiap langkah - langkahmu

pernahku menyakiti hatimu
pernah kau melupakan janji ini
semua karena kita ini manusia

back to *


reff:
kau bawa diriku ke dalam hidupmu
kau basuh diriku dengan rasa sayang
senyummu juga sedihmu adalah hidupku
kau sentuh cintaku dengan lembut dengan sejuta warna…

reff

dua belas januari bertemu
menjalani kisah cinta ini
naluri berkata engkaulah milikku


*started at Jan 17, finished at Jan 23..due to some...ermmm...distractions

First in 2008

post # 207

Ermmm....first post in 2008. I have this topic I want to write about but haven't got the time to really write it down and pour my own thoughts into it. I guess now is the perfect time to do so. Ok, let's start with the 2008 countdown.

The plan was simple. Karaoke, go to Mabes n pick up Bowo, go to Jef and play WE. Turned out not that simple. From rain that poured down right when I reached Pool. I had to act quickly and wear a raincoat. Arrived at Happy Puppy just in time at 8.55 PM. Waited for a while then David came. He was soaked wet...well..at least the backside of his pants wasn't wet...hahahaha...Short story, it all went well. We had some crazy time and some explicit pictures were taken :D. Then after karaoke (and after I took Karen and left Elisha at home), we went to Hwang clan place to pick up Bowo (that was the initial plan). Got stuck at La Piazza because it was right at 12.00 AM, January 1st 2008. The cars weren't moving because the people wanted to see the fireworks. There we were, three of us..in a car..stuck..rain was pouring down a bit...so romantic....lolllzzzzz....At first we were frustrated, but we tried to think positive and enjoy the fireworks. Some of them were beautiful and amazing :D. Back at Happy Puppy we had this joke; if someday the three of us have gf, then we'll be having triple dates instead of threesome. Yeah...triple dates, we still go to karaoke, while our gfs shopping at mall...lolzzzz...that was hilarous....Anyway...it turned out that Bowo couldn't come with us, so after having late dinner, we went back to Jef's house. Stopped by at McD gading to buy some burgers, Big Mac to be precise. Coincidentally met Angel there. She's waiting for her order too. I greeted her Happy New Year from inside the car while David and Agus was drooling....hahahha....We ended up playing WE till 7 AM and went to sleep after that. I woke up at 8 sth AM, went back home, took a bath and continued my sleep....What a new year celebration...:D:D:D

January 3rd, 2008.
First working day in 2008. I can still remember, three years ago it was also my first day of work. I was anxious and excited at that time. Took a half day leave cause I had to attend technical meeting for Dave's wedding. Arrived at the gold club a lil bit late and the meeting was already started. Dave was planning to sing a song, When You Say Nothing At All. Reminded me of my own plan to sing at my wedding reception someday. I have prepared the song which I'll be singing to my future wife..the perfect song to be sung...but now...Dave has stolen my idea...lolzz...nah I was just kidding...we both just think alike :D:D:D I just realized that it was quite hectic to arrange a wedding reception. I made up my mind, I wanna get married only once....it will be unbearable to go through all the preparation process again...hahahaha....Got Gossip Girl episode 11.. it was good, but still couldn't top episode 10 :D.

January 4th, 2008.
Still a lil bit drowsy when I arrived at office. Bongki gave me a new TV serial, Chuck which after I watched the first episode, begin to like. There's an enhancement of office facilities. We have Cold Milo/Blackcurrant machine now...Nice addition to the existing Nestle Coffee machine. Nothing much that day, just playing CS after lunch time till afternoon...lolzzz....

Okay now to the main course. Enough with the entrée. This goes out to my two girl friends (remember, the girl and friends are separate words so no, they're not my girlfriends :D) and for all the girls out there in general. Here's the thing: I have two friends (On second thought, I better omit the girl word to avoid misinterpretation) who's in similar condition. I'll take one as an example. She's getting tired (or already been tired for quite some time) of their relationship. She both told me that she wanted to break up, but she still have this doubt. She does not enjoy her relationship anymore..She doesn't wanna stay, but yet it's hard for her to walk away. One of the reason is because her bf is too kind and he really spoils her. But his spoiling becomes overwhelming for her. She told me she had talked about this, but it's still the same. Well, I don't know exactly what or how she said it but after talking about it, she stills feel the same...tired of the relationship while her bf doesn't aware at all about their situation. He still thinks everything is fine, that they're doing ok..great probably. I asked her whether she has talked to her bf about her (true) feelings...how she feels about the relationship. She said she hasn't and maybe their relationship won't last long. I told her it is essential to talk about this and I urged her to do so, because I think if this keep going on, they will break up eventually...she cannot hold on being in a relationship when she doesn't feel comfortable in it. She said to give it some time and she'd see how it goes. She doesn't have the heart to break up...yet because of his kindness...

I think it's useless if she doesn't say honestly what's on her mind. How can she expect things will change? He will change? That their relationship will last if she does not communicate about this matter. She probably can hold on for a few months, then after she can't stand it anymore, she'll break up. Does she think that by giving some time (and do nothing), a miracle will happen and her bf can change? Hellooo.......we guys (as much as we want to) cannot read minds. How can we know that there's something wrong in the relationship (from the gf point of view) if the gf doesn't talk about it? Yes we are dumb, we cannot translate the signals you girls give 100% accurate and we do not posses the famous 'woman intuition' to sniff if there's something going on out of the ordinary....so do please tell us...communicate with us....work it out together...if it cannot be resolved...then break up is the wise thing to do. It's better to talk (and maybe break up) now than keeping this to yourself. Maybe if it's just a glimpse or something unimportant, you better keep it. But when it comes to the continuity of the relationship and involves the other party, it's better to speak up. Keeping this thing will only add a burden. That's why I believe that an open and honest communication is the foundation of every relationship, not only in bf gf relationship. So please take this humble advice...talk...talk...talk...speak up girls... *For A n B, if you read this...you know it's you I was referring in this post. Good luck ;)

Well....I guess that's all my 'preach' for now. It took me 3 days to write this blog, thanks to CS...hahahaa.....

Girls...sometimes we need you to make the first stand...As for dessert...Darren Hayes and Daniel Jones are ready with their song.... enjoy

Savage Garden - Hold Me

Hey Hey
If we can't find a way out of these problems
Then maybe we don't need this
Standing face to face
Enemies at war we build defenses
And secret hiding places

I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Coz tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man

Hey Hey
More than angry words I hate this silence
It's getting so loud
Well I wanna scream
But bitterness has silenced these emotions
It's getting hard to breathe
So tell me isn't happiness
Worth more than a golden diamond ring?
I'm willing to do anything
To calm the storm in my heart
I've never been the praying kind
But lately I've been down upon my knees
Not looking for a miracle
Just a reason to believe

I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Because tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man

Do you remember not long ago?
When we used to live for the nighttime
Cherish each moment
Now we don't live we exist
We just run through our lives
So alone
That's why you've got to hold me

Hey Hey
If we can't find a way out of these problems
Then maybe we don't need this
Standing face to face
Enemies at war we build defenses
And secret hiding places

I might need you to hold me tonight
I might need you to say it's alright
I might need you to make the first stand
Because tonight I'm finding it hard to be your man